
2008 is coming to a close. I have decided this year that I am going to make a resolution. You see, I've always thought New Years Resolutions were silly, why not start them at any time of the year instead of waiting until January 1st? I guess I do still feel that way, but it just so happens that I've decided to change my life, now...and it happens to be the end of 2008 and beginning of 2009.
My resolution is to simply live my life in Joy! What a concept! I will miss my pity sessions and I will certainly miss my "who is me's." Many that know me, do not know that my childhood was very difficult. Those that do know, marvel at how I made it through it. That childhood was filled with sexual abuse, a torn apart family and a little child living in survival mode, trying to make everyone, everywhere happy..that is until I hit adolescence and then I was focused on only myself..searching for happiness in all the wrong places. I've been beat, I've been abandoned, stranded, alone, poor and in the throes of depression. The roads I have chosen have always been the difficult roads to travel. But you know what? I've also learned this:
- Just how strong I am. I've learned that I can look fear in the face and laugh, I can say, "Is that all you got?"
- I've learned to steal the moments of happiness and savor them like a fine bit of chocolate melting on a tongue.
- I've learned to try new things in my life with delicious abandon so to speak. I do not stop and worry if I'll fail..I just trudge ahead full speed. What is the worst that can happen? I've been through the depths of hell and survived so now I am not afraid to...try!
- I've learned that most things in life work it's self out in the long run for the higher good. I look back at the saddest of times, and realize that something did come out of it later that improved my life in some way or fashion.
- I've learned that prayer works. Yes, I am psychic, and yes I am Christian and believe in the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. I know prayer works, because I've prayed so much in my life and was sustained by that act of faith.
- I've witnessed miracles, many miracles that have no other explanation. I've had a child born circumsized after prayer, money materialize it thin air...blowing in the breeze and many many other "coincidences."
- I've learned to love myself. No matter my size, no matter what is going on in my life, I love myself. I have had 8 surgeries of various nature, my body has a tendency of breaking down, needing tune ups. I live in pain from spinal degeneration and a birth defect in my hip joints... but I love my body..it slows me down and reminds me to sit and smell the flowers.
The first step in joy, is to release the past by loving it! I got this from my favorite book by Sanaya Roman...Living In Joy. This book will tell you that when you have a bad memory, stop and think hard..what did you learn from this? You see, the Universe, or even your parents working on behalf of the Universe puts obstacles in your way. These obstacles develop your strength and your inner will. What a concept! Just as a body builder uses the counterforce of weights to build muscles, we use the unpleasant times of our life to strengthen our character. I must really be strong!
So for now, instead of looking at the single happenings in your life that bring you tears, look at the big picture! Dry the tears, gather your strength and instead of crying, of cursing those who are making your life difficult...thank the Universe, thank God and bless that person. Spreak Joy so that an abundance of Joy comes back to you!
I remember, one time when I was very small. I was at my father's and my stepmother's home. I always heard stories of how my brother would run away. He would go to his grandmothers up the road, drink a cup of coffee. They could always find him there. I guess he was 6 at the time. But the point is, the stories always were in laughter, of how cute that memory was. Well, one day...I thought I just couldn't take it anymore. I probably was simply told "no" and that infuriated me. I had a whole set of children's luggage. (I went back and forth for visitation, my parents were divorced). One morning, bright and early, I packed my bags. I packed everything I thought I would need to get me through in life. All my favorite toys, my dolls and their clothing. My goodness, I didn't think about clothing for myself, food or money! I slipped out and began to walk down our lonely country road, dragging these suitcases behind me. Well, would you just know that my brother spotted me and ran to tell on me? I heard hooping and hollering and my stepmother coming down the road with a switch!! I'd been had....I was in big trouble! I got a switching, it really stung my legs.
I was very angry for the longest time, not because I got a switching, but because I didn't get those laughing, loving stories of how I run away. For many years I focused in on the differences between my brother and I. How silly! Because now I know that that day taught me the most valuable lesson of my life... No matter how hard life gets, no matter what is thrown on you, and how hard you want to give up. YOU DO NOT RUN AWAY! I haven't run away since. Oh, and I also learned that there are more important things than my toys!










